WHEN THE CAP FITS, WHY WEAR IT?

 

We have all heard of the phrase, ‘When the caps fits…’, used to suggest that someone should accept a generalised remark, or criticism, made by another person.

But, if we are on the receiving end of such comments and feel that they are unjustified and without foundation, should we accept this attempt to label us. I believe not.

We are now firmly rooted in a social era where it seems that at every turn someone, somewhere, is attempting to pigeon-hole us into a certain category, whether based on our physical appearance, education, sex, race, behaviour or beliefs.

This labelling can be socially restrictive, particularly where, as is often the case, it is linked to negative connotations. We hear time and again of those who were called names as a child and have reached adulthood with the stigma still there in the shadows, causing lasting damage to their relationships with others.

Buzz words relating to equality and diversity have quickly been adopted to become the norm, but for many of us this has opened up a minefield of political correctness. Fearful of doing or saying the wrong thing at the wrong time, it has in effect suppressed the expression of any view or opinion that may not find favour with the majority.

This is particularly true when it comes to issues relating to race or sexual preference; do we refer to someone as black, or as a person of colour? Who knows?! We are always at risk of offending someone. Whilst it is right that at long last minority groups are finding a voice that can positively influence the way we shape our future society, we must be careful of succumbing to the pervasive bullying tactics that often accompanies this societal adjustment.

In correcting the balance of society to give voice to our minority groups we must not lose sight of the fact that the rest of us also have the right to express a view as long as its intention is not to discriminate or cause offence. However, some people, often with large chips weighing heavily on their shoulders, will always take offence in an attempt to stifle proper debate.

We all have a right to be heard, and whilst it is right to take someone to task and challenge their behaviour, we must guard against those who, quick to take offence, will raise a hue and cry, escalating a situation beyond what is reasonable in the circumstances.

In a civilised society courtesy, respect and tolerance is what we should all be aiming for.